The ” no win Scenario ” made famous with Captain Kirk and Star Trek . it is easier to end up there than you think, starting off at 17 getting her pregnant, and of course that means at that time, you got married, sex was still good, baby on the way, Joined the Navy to learn a trade so I could support my new family. then after the baby sex becomes less frequent, (don’t want to wake the baby or the kids might walk In ) so you accept that and make it a challenge to work it in, a few more years go by and with soccer and baseball and football and track , chess club .. ect. sex drops to every couple weeks, the every 3 weeks, then once a month…. it goes on that way for many years and develops to a certain day at a certain time always the same thing, she doesn’t want to try anything new. and if a headache, grandkids staying over or other things to do that morning happen , well then the opportunity is lost for a few more weeks. then finally one day she announces that “WE” are getting to old for sex. ( wait , I’m only 56 and I’m not dead yet ) you’re mad but you think she is just in a mood , it will pass and things will go back to normal (once a month sex at best, sometimes longer, how did that get to be normal?).
finally you just quit trying realizing all the things you never got to try and wanted to, bondage, spanking, blowjobs, maybe a 3some, all that never happened either. you had talked about them and she said she would think about it but by the time you got back in the bedroom you forgot to mention it again.
Why don’t you leave you say, well that was a slow built up process too.
first off she is the love of your life, your best friend , and you cannot imaging not seeing her every day.
then you have kids, they have families, grandkids, even great grandkids every one of whom has lived with grandma and grandma at one time or another when times were hard .
how do you devastate the lives of so many people……..
so here you are , so many things left undone, and stuck playing the part you have created for yourself, with no possibility of any course of action.
at least I can keep some hope alive here looking for the part of my soul that has been buried for so long.
if you leave, you destroy the world, when you stay the only one hurt is you. so there really is no choice.
after 40 years you realize where you are.
